If you feel lost in life right now—like you’re floating in a fog while everyone else seems to be running toward their dreams with a five-year plan and color-coded Google Calendar—you’re in the right place.

Maybe you:

First of all: You are not alone.

Second: There’s nothing wrong with you.

Third: The truth is, you were probably never taught how to figure out who you are.

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You’ve been following someone else’s map.

Maybe it was your parents’ expectations. Or what society told you success should look like. Or that voice that said “security” means staying in a job you hate until you retire (and then maybe you’ll be allowed to enjoy life).

But here’s the problem: When you follow the world’s path, you eventually wake up and realize—you’ve built a life that doesn’t feel like you.

That’s not failure. That’s awareness.

And awareness? That’s your launchpad.

I don’t know about you but journaling has been extremely cathartic for me in the course of my healing and finding myself. And frankly, there’s some science backing it up (which you know I love!).

Studies show that journaling helps with the emotional processing of traumatic events. By organizing chaotic thoughts and releasing stored emotions, journaling can help improve mental clarity and resilience. (And it really works!)

Other benefits? Better sleep, lower blood pressure (think reduced stress), and boosted immunity.

So, if you’re tired of feeling stuck and aimless, start here—not with another checklist or vision board, but with these reflection prompts. Journal them. Sit with them. Cry with them if you need to (been there).

Hello, freedom. 👋 This question peels back the layers of people-pleasing and shows you what you actually want.

This was a big one for me. I was so obsessed with getting my mom’s approval before allowing myself to make any moves at all.

She didn’t like my boyfriend? Sabotage the relationship.

Want to take an expensive course that will help me grow? Check in to make sure I’m not being irresponsible with my money first.

It wasn’t her fault. I just didn’t trust myself (for whatever traumatic reason from my past) and so I needed my mom to tell me what steps were the right ones to take.

The problem? No one knows your path but God.

The sooner you get out of people-pleasing mode, the sooner you can actually find the path you’re supposed to be on.

Even a flicker of joy is a clue. Follow it.

The passion question always makes me feel just a little bit like a loser. (Am I the only one who struggles to know what I’m passionate about?)

I’m passionate about animals but I ran that course and I’m not so interested in going back. I love an armful of jewelry but I don’t really think that’s what I’m here for…

Start off with just listing some things that light you up – don’t think about how you can make money from it or what you would do. (If you’re anything like me, just creating the list will be enough of a dopamine hit to get you moving!)

Still not sure what to jot down?

Think about what topics you get excited to talk about and can go on a long-winded rant for 20 minutes straight. (For me… conspiracy theories and cellular activation. Don’t get me started!)

Often, there’s a pivot point—a breakup, job change, or even just a moment of clarity—that triggered the shift.

There were subtle hints all across my timeline—like when I worked in a lab but knew I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life there. Or when I realized I hated living in Texas and craved the green grass and matter-of-fact attitude from back east.

But it didn’t really slap me in the face until I was fired from my job. (I’m the good girl, the hard worker. You’re firing me?!)

It shook my identity and made me finally wake up to how lost I really was.

Here’s the thing… do you feel lost because you really have gotten off course? Or are you just depressed over your current circumstances?

Let’s take a closer look before we start uprooting your whole life!

Before the rules, the expectations, and the fear... who were you?

Before school and all of the expectations, I was a ham!

I cracked jokes and did impersonations. (Did I do thaaat—can you hear the Urkel flashbacks?!) I put on shows for my parents and loved to laugh and I loved making people laugh.

I was a pint-sized performer before I went to school and totally shut down.

I stopped talking and playing so much and I became serious—focused on doing a good job and getting good grades.

For whatever reason, the world keeps us small. It gets us off track, but now it’s time to dream again!

Sometimes figuring out what you don’t want is the fastest way to get clear on what you do.

At a certain point in my chiropractic career, I had an idea to open my own practice. I planned everything out. I wrote a business plan and secured a loan.

But as I was looking for a location, it hit me—I didn’t want to be tied to a 24/7 business…

I started looking at the reality of a brick-and-mortar business and realized that I really wanted to work less, not more!

It took me going through that process to see that the “normal” path was not what I actually wanted and it made me look at other options that fit me better.

Oof. This one stings—but truth often does before it sets you free.

Did you settle for the okay job because it’s comfortable and you know the in’s and out’s like the back of your hand? (I sure did.)

Are you settling in your relationships because at least it’s better than being alone? Or because you’re getting older and no one’s perfect—“This is the best I’m going to get.” (Been there!)

Be honest with yourself because sugar coating the truth isn’t going to make your life any better.

Whether by God, angels, or your higher self—what if you believed it was safe to want more?

News flash: God wants more for you than even you can imagine for yourself.

Pretend all the doors are wide open. Which ones would you walk through?

What would you pick up and take along with you on your journey?

What experiences do you want to have in this one life that you get?

Look, you don’t need a perfect 10-year plan to move forward. You just need a starting point—a breadcrumb of clarity to follow. And that starts by turning inward, not chasing more “shoulds.”

If you feel lost, it’s only because you’re on the edge of discovering who you really are.
The good news?

That version of you—the one that’s free, lit up, aligned, and unstoppable—is already inside you.

She’s just waiting for permission to take the wheel.

And if you're ready to keep peeling back the layers, make sure you're on the email list—it’s your weekly permission slip to stop performing and start becoming.

You’ve got this, my friend. One breadcrumb at a time.